Hey…
Folks
Friends
Comrades
Everyone
People
Pals
You motley crew
Weirdos
Siblings
Fuckers
…how you doing, wanna go to the movies?
(this is by no means exhaustive list, the point is there are plenty of existing and perfectly acceptable alternatives, pick one, or more, and get comfortable with it)
The literal meaning isn’t gender neutral, but in actual practice, it 100% is.
Unless you can ask a straight man how many guys he’s slept with, it isn’t gender neutral, no matter how resistant to this fact you are.
This.
One of the best ways to confront a bigot is by pretending to be completely naive of their intentions, and getting them to dig their own hole by repeatedly asking them to explain what they mean.
When I was a kid my parents wanted to open up an existing cavity under our house to build a basement, and that never happened because it (E: was discovered during the building inspection that it) was full of Radon. I guess I’m desensitised (but possibly slowly decaying a little faster than I should be…).
They can find another line, or skip trying to be funny altogether if the only way they can think of is gendered and they can’t be arsed to check the gender of the person they’re talking to.
And lets be honest - it wasn’t that good a joke.
Either way, it really isn’t fucking difficult, and is definitely easier than whatever the fuck this mess is.
Your app would ideally just respect display names and it would require no extra effort on your part to gender people correctly.
Even if pronouns aren’t displayed, it takes even less effort to use neutral pronouns for everyone unless you know otherwise.
That’s not an excuse nor justification for misgendering anyone, neutral pronouns exist, use them.
I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them
And yet, in that little whine right there, you managed to use the very gender neutral pronoun that would have saved you all this hassle (including the hassle you’re making up of having to go and look up the pronouns of every individual you interact with).
So you know it exists, and you know how to use it, but you decided to try and be funny instead, and it backfired.
You misgendered someone, and now have to deal with the most minor of minorest consequences for harm you caused to another.
You are still free to create 100 different accounts on 100 different instances, just not the one where you broke the rules. No one owes you a platform, deal with it.
Your choice now is to double down and make it worse, or you can be an adult, admit you made a mistake, and learn from it for the future so you don’t repeat it.
I dare to say you have already chosen, but feel free to prove me wrong.
Not blaming anyone, just don’t want to watch content with ads, so I won’t…
I’ve never used Plex before, that’s a huge turn off. Though tbf I’ve still not watched the episodes I already have, so I’m in no rush to put myself through that annoyance lol
It’s good to know they’re there though, for now anyway, and that at least someone has them and is making them available.
I’ll give it a look, thanks! Though I was really looking forward to having the entire collection safe on my own machine. :/
So I was going to say thanks for the reminder to go check if more episodes of the Drew Carey Show had been uploaded to archive.org since the last time I checked, only to find that those that were already on there (first 2 or 3 seasons I think?) are now all gone (apart from the Improv-A-Ganza episodes, which I will be downloading before they disappear too). Nowhere is safe.
False neutrality
All neutrality is false.
“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse, and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.”
-Desmond Tutu
E: Also, if you knew anything about leftists, you’d know that we’re our own biggest critics. I also bet that you don’t demand anywhere near as high a standard when you consume your main stream centre-right media, which almost exclusively speak against the left, so it’s not like your short of sources for the criticism you want so desperately to confirm the (centre-right) bias you like to pretend you don’t have.
And you, asking for neutrality:
Death to Smoochy
I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone else reference this film, ever. I watched it far too young, my parents got it in a pile of cheap DVD’s thinking it was a typical Robin Williams kid friendly comedy, and it scarred me… 😂
Oof, that sucks (the doxxing). I guess here is like retirement for you lol
Oh yeah, that’s hardcore 😂
What’s the saying, hit dogs holler? Take it as a sign you’re hitting a nerve lol
Honestly I don’t know how you deal with all that crap 😂
E: the fact that neither of you give a shit about the people telling you the term isn’t gender neutral, doesn’t apply to us, and that we don’t feel comfortable with you using it to speak to or about us says it all. No matter how much mental gymnastics you do to convince yourself otherwise you are the ones choosing to be the problem instead of actually listening to others and showing some basic respect. It’s an easy fix, too - all you have to do is give a minimal fuck about others.