Congrats on 90 days!! Huge fucking milestone, well done! When FOMO kicks in, force yourself to think about low points you’ve had with the fire water - it’s not worth it - plus there is a huge market opening up for non-alcoholic drinks, so when you feel a bit more resilient that’s an option to socialize, YMMV.

In terms of getting out, I whole-hearterdly agree with the other commenter with volunteering. I would further suggest doing something physical, trash cleanups, running/biking club, etc. For me, getting my heart pounding and sweat pouring vanquishes any anxiety I might have had entering the situation or generally.

Best of luck!

I was kinda going down the list of more involved to least, but def they have game/trivia nights at most local pubs, plus a bunch of random events that if you participate in you are going to meet people.

It is funny and it is true! (also fuck steve)

I keep telling my s/o we need a sister wife and she keeps slapping me. That’s what dating is to me now.

I’ve said this a bunch here and elsewhere but it bears repeating - get out there in spaces where you are forced to interact with others: rockclimbing gym, mma/martial arts gym, cooking classes (either free at the library or paid at Le’ Bon’ Too’ Expensive’), social spaces for vices like hookah bars or bar bars (come on green lounges already!!!).

Forced interaction where hooking up is not expected is where the real hooking up takes place. Get out there and have fun and forget about (pussy/dick/w/e) for a few weeks and it will magically start coming into your life.

Most relationships I’ve had in my life, both platonic and sexual, just sort of ‘clicked.’ I never found myself wondering about what was going on, most effort was recipricated without much thought. I would just move on. She directly communicated she needed space, she’s not reaching out - I think the writing is on the wall.

Many people’s social skills suck these days. I have found the best way to meet new people is to put yourself in a situation where you have to. Several life long friends of mine were forged in the fire of Muay Thai. Still others I met while adding certs to my Padi scuba stuff. When I first moved to NYC many years ago, I went on meetup and found a DND group. I don’t recommend it for health reasons, but I met my wife and several other life-long friends via a crippling hookah addiction lol. My point is go places where communication is essential. Many libraries have free cooking classes, etc. Another good place.

Like my beloved Nokia N900 and my current Pixel 6 had a bastard love child and I am all about it.

Give it to me direct, give it to me hard.

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