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When you sell your home, you won’t get back any of the money you gave to the bank as interest, but in theory everything else including your down payment will be returned to you.

and your partner would get nothing if she “bolted” even though she paid money so you could have it

I mean when you’re renting a place you’re more than likely helping the owner pay off their loan anyway. It’s just another step removed.

and you think thats fair??? “It’s a bit like I’m the landlord and my partner is the tenant” is the argument I’m trying to make

well to me it doesn’t seem fair for the non-owner to help pay off the house and the other getting to own all of it.

The price for owning that house is not just the loan but the interest as well. A home is more than a financial investment, but a necessity. Imagine buying a car that you let your SO use but insisting that she pay a quarter of the cost because the car loses half its value as soon as you drive it off the lot and it’s only fair that she pay half of that money thats “lost” but then keeping all the money once you sell the car to yourself

it’s the cost of purchasing a house. Two people paying a landlord is more similar to having two girlfriends who pay off the mortgage. This is more like one person sharing the cost of the loan on a house they won’t get to keep.

that still means she helped pay off the mortgage, and she should accordingly own a part of the house even if she “bolted”

if she helps pay the mortgage or renovations or anything that increases the value of the house she gets to own part of the house otherwise its completely unfair, split utilities according to income and thats it.

Probably best to let her dictate the price though since there is such an imbalance of power at play

KeepassXC + webdav

just stumbled across this video and remembered out “conversation”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4ieMzbXiRA

Do you need to be officially diagnosed?

Helps with access to medication

If you could diagnose yourself you wouldn’t need any of those things.

In a perfect world everyone would have access to what they need, until then a lot of people will have to make do with what they got and if its not a licensed doctor then google will have to do.

Oh, so now I see. You don’t even need doctors because they’re racist or something because they didn’t give you the diagnosis Google said you had.

They did. I am officially diagnosed by a licensed psychiatrist with ADD and I get prescription medication for it. Still don’t know why you assume I am not. Yet still there a lot of doctors which are racist, sexist, transphobic and mis- or underdiagnose because of their biases. A white wealthy male doctor might have difficulty relating to a black poor woman and not understand the issue they’re facing. On top of systemic racism, for instance it’s well documented that, especially in psychiatry, a lot of the research is centered around USian college students, because those are the easiest test subjects to find, which makes the research rather biased.

And there are a lot of people that don’t even get to see a doctor due to poor health coverage who have to make do with what they find online.

What an absolute cold-blooded dismissal of other people life-altering struggles.

go fuck yourself you piece of shit,

a) I am officially diagnosed dont know why you assumed I wasnt

b) not everyone has equal access to healthcare and might have no choice other than to self-diagnose and medicate any range of illnesses

c) there are systemic issues like e.g. racism, sexism (sexism is double the issue in mental health than it is in physical) paired with the superiority complex of some doctors constantly leads to psychiatrists dismissing and downplaying their struggles and not diagnosing or writing prescriptions a patient needs.

but glad you keyboard warriors who never had to deal with this shit got it all figured out

wow thats hostile, fuck you too buddy

dont like that approach since mental illnesses are typically underdiagnosed rather than overdiagnosed. If someone says they have adhd they do until proven otherwise.

YoU jUsT nEeD sOmE fReSh AiR

yeah there are only two reasons why someone doesn’t do something and it’s because they can’t or the don’t wanna. If they want to do something but don’t it’s because they can’t and some pedestrian advice like “Just think how much nicer it will feel after you’re done” is not gonna help.

not necessarily more, but more intense. Like it’s borderline physically painful sometimes to force myself to do something. It feels like I’m being very cruel to myself for no good reason, its just a dishwasher after all

the problems sound similar to “what everyone has” but they arent the same

Yes everyone struggles motivating themselves to do chores but it’s not the same when you have adhd.

Yes everyone has trouble concentrating during a boring lecture/lesson but its not the same when you have adhd.

Yes everyone has the urge to buy stuff they don’t need, but its not the same when you have adhd.