i really like a fictional character so much it hurts and i have this friend who i make stories with with that character and she’s the only one who likes him as much, probably more than me. i don’t want to be that way.
stop all internet activity and join a local sports team
Or anything involving the outside world. Nature walks, bird watching, geocaching, etc. Doesn’t need to be anything competitive or strenuous.
This absolutely not intended to sound condescending, genuinely curious. Are you a teenager?
18, yep!
I’m not saying this is the best advice, but maybe it resonates with you. Find a non fictional character or any subject that seems interesting. If there is a person that seems cool and has a biography try reading/listening/watching that. By doing this you broaden you horizon a little and that itself should give you a slightly changed view on your own fictional character. In this way you and you character can evolve together and that may also change your relationship with the character. As others have mentioned, joining a group activities like sports, volunteering, debating club, etc can also be beneficial. TLDR: Broaden your horizons. Try to interact with new people and new ideas/views.
This is just shifting addictions to another unhealthy parasocial relationship.
Someone with this type of issue needs to shift their focus to something different than idolizing a person, fictional or not.
Is this adoration of a character negatively impacting your life in some way? Does it prevent you from being productive or taking take of yourself? Does it detract from social activities? Is it causing you financial strain?
If it’s not now, it will in the future.
If someone is asking strangers for help to stop a behavior, you should believe that the behavior is an issue.
Would you ask this if the question was about alcohol?
Nothing wrong with being obsessed with a fictional character. Lean into it and find ways of fulfilling the pain you say you are feeling, eg maybe spend more time writing stories about the character to explore things you want to see the character do or go through.
If you really want to “get over it”, then focus on developing other hobbies and interests. Whatever your second biggest interest is, spend more time on that.
Nothing wrong with it. Just understand that it’s completely fantasy. Check out the group that meets for depression because Avatar doesn’t exist.
Find out why you are obsessed with the character
Some start religions, some other start cults, some others fan clubs.
