• TheFonz@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    For me personally the first tell is when they are morally loading every statement in an argument and are unable to engage with a topic directly. Adults should be able to discuss or debate certain topics on the value of the arguments alone without feeling pressured to include a declarative virtue signal in every clause.

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        4 months ago

        Me too. But in my view they are not fully developed adults and still have some emotional intelligence left to grow.

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            Usually when discussing a heated topic (politics, gun control-take your pick) and trying to discuss the facts of the matter in a neutral manner but the response comes back with every phrase super charged with morally loaded words. Examples of a conversation I had recently (emphasis mine):

            sure as hell isn’t PANDERING! What the fuck is wrong with you??

            Typical apologist tactic

            PRETENDING to care about the brutal slaughter of tens of thousands of innocent civilians

            deflecting to your conspiracy theory

            shows that YOU don’t care enough about Palestinian lives

            It’s very pronounced on this site for some reason. I don’t know why.

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              I assume the quoted part is all one comment from the other party?
              Just asking because the formatting looks a bit like conversation.

              Besides that, yeah it reads really immature and emotionally charged to the moon and back.

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      “debate me” kids are another stereotype on the internet though. The idea that ideas should be entertained and discussed for the sake of it and come without implications attached is just another form of edgyness. It’s another thing that often goes away with age or with touching grass. I know because I was one of them. Now I understand that the fact itself of discussing something publicly has moral implications.

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        Yea, I agree. That’s why I used the word discuss because when the debate-bro mindset kicks in you’re definitely dealing with an angsty teenager (also the constant invocation of logical fallacies).