I had a discussion recently with someone about this. Since we don’t really celebrated our birthdays we weren’t sure what’s “normal “.
I go out of my way to not have people know my birthday.
In Germany it’s customary for those having the birthday to bring cake to work. That way coworkers know.
And friends should find out when you invite them to a birthday party. Doesn’t have to be a big party when you’re an adult. You just invite them, eat something together, have some fun. Depends on the friend group.
TIL Hobbit Culture was based, in part, on Germans.
Another win for home offices!
It’s January 1st, 1970 no matter who (or what) asks
Unix time?
You’re exactly 5 years older than me. What a coincidence!
Heh, you old af. My condolences.
But at least that’s a nice round number.
Nobody knows my birthday.
For adults unless your throwing a party, it’s not something that comes up.
My birthday I keep to myself and whoever remembers remembers haha.
I used to forget others birthdays but the people who matter most to me I’ve made the effort to remember as best I can. Last year I started putting birthdays into my calendar as a recurring event so I don’t miss them. I just set a reminder a week or two prior if I want time to get a gift!
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I think the last time I celebrated any holiday was buying some champagne when Kissinger died.
I don’t particularly like celebrating birthdays or holidays so I definitely do not expect anyone to remember. I also avoid telling my birthday whenever I can evading as I can. That being said I throw peoples birthday into my cal as I discover them so I can be congnizant of them since most people do celebrate that stuff. If you want to impress me though get me a really relevant gift out of the blue that you got for free, made, or was just a steal of a deal. or a handmedown. don’t be like seinfeld though and lie to me on how cheap you got the thing as the experience should be authentic.
Those that know, know. I don’t like the extra attention on an arbitrary day. I also don’t message people happy birthday. Only if I see you in person or you’re my wife and I’m away.
I hate birthdays so I am OK with everyone forgetting
I don’t celebrate my birthday and I don’t tell people my birthday unless it’s required for something.
I try to be fair, and since I don’t remember others people’s birthdays, I don’t mind if anyone (other than my family) remembers mine.
I don’t want people to know my birthday
I do my best to not telling anyone so only a few people know. I’m allergic to pointless social interactions and that is one of them for me. At my job nobody knows.
If they’re close friends and family I definitely expect them to remember. It’s a good indicator of who I can trust in my life as well, those who usually remember just also happen to be on the trustworthy list.
We’ve been debating whether someone remembering a birthday is a reflection of how much they care or not.
Remembering birthdays is a reflection of how much someone cares about birthdays. There’s no need to read anything more into that.
Many people (this thread is an example) are either completely indifferent to birthdays or even dislike them. To us (I’m indifferent) birthdays are totally pointless and basically a fact related to identification, like a student number or social insurance number. I remember my student and social insurance number because I have to, in order to function at school and in society. I don’t ask anyone else’s student numbers because it’s entirely pointless and useless information to me.
Well said.
For me it correlates so yes. I’m not saying one is necessarily caused by the other.
Conversely, I set up birthday reminders for the people I care about.
Everyone has smart phones and already adds people’s phone numbers in their contacts. Just add their birthdays as well and you will be reminded. If you don’t, you don’t care.
I couldnt care less. I never understood how people would be angry at others for forgetting their birthdays. Its just a damn anniversary…
