For me, it was learning English. Although I do make a few mistakes here and there, I’m mostly perfect on it.
The amount of resources you have access to dramatically increases when you know a universal language. I say dramatically because it made me realize how much my native language lacks when it comes to certain topics. The most obvious one to me was tech and computers. Everybody knows how to use Windows but there are very few resources about stuff beyond Windows. It’s actually sad. [insert sad face here]
Getting away from my ex.
I had resigned myself to my life being over. But when we started pushing for kids, I started noticing relief whenever it didn’t work. I realized that while I might have been willing to sacrifice myself to her, I wasn’t willing to sacrifice kids.
So I did the unthinkable, and I called it all off. It was horribly sad, but now after five years out, I’m feeling like myself again. I shudder to think of that zombified state I was living in.
I realised a relationship was doomed when I had a pregnancy scare. I was overjoyed when I got my period, and he told me he was sad. The man already had 3 kids by 3 different women, none of whom he saw, and I was like wtf how does he think I’d have a kid with him?? We broke up not long after. And every time I see him around town I thank my lucky stars I didn’t get stuck with him, as well as embarrassment I was with him in the first place.
Joining the electrical union. I’m a convicted felon. The union gave me a future.
Deciding to transition ten years ago
What element were you before you transitioned to fire?
EDIT: I should probably point this out, this is a joke; please don’t speculate or ask about a trans person’s pretransition identity.
Someone convinced me to study computer science 20 years ago. The career possibilities with good money and easy work have put the rest of life on easy mode (for now). Even meeting my wife and having my family would never have happend without that decision.
Marrying my wife. She is so smart and strong. We make a great team and we have been able to resolve the various conflicts of 15 years. I couldn’t have chosen a better partner.
Going to therapy.
I found out the reason I could’t sleep anymore was deeper than just being stressed out during a particular time frame of my life, but it was the last ring of a chain of bad (but apparently “normal”) decisions that started a long time ago.I hate that you are right because English is such a janky ass language.
And don’t worry too much on mistakes since native speakers suck at english too.
No we aren’t
Don’t worry Aussies get a free pass for being pretty damn cool.
Getting a divorce. My life has been better since then, even when I lived in my car.
A “friend” started a company and hired me. It was pretty fun for a year. Then it became pretty bad — real bad. I quit on the spot after a verbal abuse session where I demanded more respect and my “friend” / boss literally said “no.”
It’s been a little over a year since I quit. Lived in my car for some of it, otherwise took odd jobs here and there where I could rent a room temporarily.
I’m at the end of this insane journey — starting a new job in a couple months. It’s been rough but I still think it was the right decision. Curious to see myself in 6 months to a year.
Anyway, felt like this was somewhat similar to your case.
Moving to California. Happened on a whim. Change my life completely because I didn’t fit in my conservative state and would never have achieved actual happiness. Also, continuing therapy.
Going vegan
Was taking 2 gap years in education. Where I worked a year, and took firefighters education for 9 month, where I met my now wife, after that traveled for 2 month, before I continued my education with computer science.
I’d say so far, my best decision has been saying “ok” when an old coworker offered me an interview at a new job.
OP, do you mind if I ask what your native language is?
I apologize for the late reply. I was really busy these few days.
OP, do you mind if I ask what your native language is?
Well I do not mind. It’s Turkish.
Quiting an exhausting job. That was a big relieve for me and for my partner even more so
Quit smoking.
Apart from that, it’s been a clusterfuck.
Asked my boss to relocate me to another country 5 years ago. It was a once in a lifetime opportunity and I’m glad I even asked in the first place, because no one else had done it at the time.
