It’s already well known at work that I don’t just not like gore videos but that I hate them and actively avoid them.

A colleague sent me a video of a man being murdered by axe via WhatsApp to my personal phone on my lunch break. Before I opened it I asked if it was a video that I would want to see (because I know what sort of character he is), he implied it was fine.

Despite my suspicion I took his word and watched it. I immediately scolded him, he then made light of the situation, I told him that it wasn’t funny and that if it ever happened again I would be making a formal complaint immediately.

A couple of minutes later, another colleague came in to the mess room, the guy that sent the video made fun of me for not liking the video in front of them. I told him that he was making fun of me and that I wasn’t ok with that.

Do I have the right to not be sent murder videos? What would an employer do if I made a complaint?

  • teawrecks@sopuli.xyz
    3·
    6 months ago

    Honestly, I feel like you’re being bizarrely calm about the situation. This is so far beyond unacceptable that one or both of them should be immediately fired for this offense, lest you have an open-and-shut hostile work environment lawsuit on your hands.

    I would make sure to keep the text as evidence and let HR know about it. If the guys are somehow not fired, and ever approach you again or try to retaliate in any way, go consult a lawyer.

  • Today@lemmy.world
    3·
    6 months ago

    You’re being bullied. He will continue because he thinks you won’t respond. Bullies get worse, not better.

    • Diplomjodler@lemmy.world
      1·
      6 months ago

      Absolutely correct. That asshole knew exactly what he was doing and he is only going to escalate if OP doesn’t push back.

  • inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world
    2·
    6 months ago

    All the advice about going to HR is great, and you absolutely should.

    But on a personal note, I’m really sorry you are dealing with this. Absolutely not even remotely okay for him to do this and you are well within your rights to force an end to this. Wildly unprofessional behavior and down right creepy behavior just on a personality level.

    I hope you find peace from him soon.

    • ShepherdPie@midwest.social
      2·
      6 months ago

      Not only that, but “it’s known that I don’t like gore videos” like it’s some common thing that comes up in conversation. I’ve worked at some raunchy “boys will be boys” type places and the worst we would do is surprise each other with some gay porn images or stuff like ‘two girls one cup.’

  • kat_angstrom@lemmy.world
    1·
    6 months ago

    That’s some hostile workplace kind of BS, and shouldn’t be tolerated. Document everything, names, dates, info etc.

  • Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    1·
    6 months ago

    Not acceptable. I don’t know laws in the UK but that person should lose their job. Workplace harassment is a serious offense, as you are REQUIRED to be there, so your employer is required to provide you with a safe, harassment-free workplace.

    Keep evidence, keep everything, report everything, and keep doing it. Keep personal logs of who you talked to and when, what was said, even if there’s no other record. It’s possibly going to cost you your “team member” status, but that’s what the harasser is counting on. They are sadistic, and they’re going out of their way to make your life miserable and endanger your job and peace of mind.

    Show them no mercy.

  • BruceLee@lemmy.ml
    1·
    6 months ago

    As for law I don’t know but this is work harassement. Your company surely has a policy against it.
    I would advice you to go to your HR make a complain even you don’t go all the way to make sure he is punished, you should make sure they is a official trace of what happened. For you, for what you went thought also for the case he keeps going and for other how might be his next victims of harassment in the futur.

    • Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world
      0·
      6 months ago

      Yep work harassment. Not even a maybe.

      If some edgelord employee sent a picture of a gun to someone with no context, HR will file it under threat. The edgelord won’t get in serious trouble, but would be warned about that since it’s vague and can be anything from showing their cool gun collection, to threatening to shoot.

      Now a video of actual murder… You better believe thats harassment. No question about it. Immediate removal.

      And as the comment above - if he’s sending that to you, he absolutely will be sending nasty shit to your other coworkers, especially to those who can’t speak up or are too afraid.

  • philpo@feddit.de
    1·
    6 months ago

    From my understanding your colleague committed a crime under the Indecent Displays (Control) Act 1981 and you can refer the matter to the police - which I would strongly recommend as this is beyond an employee-employer relationship.

    And it brings the employer into a position that the company is forced to make sure that the offender cannot reoffend against anyone (not just you). While the first offense is nothing the company can really be held liable for, anything after they have (officially) made aware they can be held liable for.