I had to deal with some guy at work trying to do some tiktok video and including me in it so I could complement his side gig or some shit (and likely only including me because women get views). And if I complain too much about being included in their grift everyone will shit on me for being a karen or for not helping him with it. Jesus fucking christ, I hate people that try to constantly plaster their face and name on everything to make money. Fuck youtubers, fuck tiktok, fuck ads, stop stealing peoples work for a quick buck ‘by doing commentary’, leave me the fuck alone
My sister is so into this mindset but doesn’t do anything about it, it’s so annoying.
Every conversation with her ends up being about how to monetize something. Fucking A, I’m not gonna start a food blog and sell ads, I just wanna make dumplings!! I’m not gonna stream my boyfriend and I playing games, we’re just trying to relax! I’m not a brand or a product I’m just a person, get off it.
I’m that neighbor thats really, really into Halloween. My whole family is. We do a pretty big yard thing every year and this year we had the scene change every week to tell a bigger story. On Halloween handing out candy and goodies, everyone was stoked and wanted to stop and say how rad it was and how much fun it was to watch over the course of the month. Except one person. She just kept on going about how I should charge people to see it. Dude, first and foremost, I’m not going to make one of the few things I find true joy in doing another goddamned chore. Also, how the fuck would I keep people from just looking at my front yard? How do you expect me to manage that?
One good thing came of it though, after her insistence again and again I told her the only practical way to charge admition would be to do an actual walk through haunted house in my back yard. So the neighbors and fam and I are going to do just that. But for free because fuck that. I might charge her a dollar though because I’m super petty.
I hate the idea that you shouldn’t freely provide joy to those around you for the sheer satisfaction of making it. The mammonite brain rot runs deep in a lot of people unfortunately
Should’ve charged only that neighbor for the “privilege”.
the thing that gets me is these people don’t realize there’s a much easier way to make $ not working…just play the stock market, that’s what all the big rich fucks who don’t do any real work do. it’s one big casino that most people buy into passively, especially in bubbles like this…it’s incredibly easy to make shitloads of $. it’s so easy that you quickly lose any interest in “grinding”.
it’s certainly not fulfilling though…gambling is no way to make a living.
I hate that so much. “Oh, this hobby only brings you joy and happiness? Don’t you know you could make money out of it?”
My one friend is the same. He laments how little ambition I have for being so creative.
I create beautiful things for fun and for people I care about. Any time I’ve done it got money, it has slowly but surely sucked the soul from it. No thanks. I’ll be happy with my creativity over here without a ton of money.
Capitol cuck mindset we need to get off it
Sorry if this is too personal, but does she have, or has she had in the past,
membership in a communist partya hobby which she did as only an amateur? It’s hard for me to take the perspective of someone who doesn’t seem to understand how monetizing a passion can completely ruin it.
The issue is basically that profit is just defined by a money transaction and that is completely unrelated to the quality of values on which it is being conveyed, pecunia non olet.
There are for sure virtuous enterprises which generates values for humans, but the large part of them deals in vicious transactions which by design only exploit humans for profit instead.
If we want progress and we want a free economic system then the coin must be one and only, and it must be directly connected with the effects on the wellbeing of each fellow human.
I dislike it too. I’m not surprised at all. I’m not the brightest but the one thing I’ll lay claim to is having seen this train wreck the whole way. Our generations were raised to be hyper-individualist neoliberals. It’s everyone for themselves and we’re all worse off for it. We’re crabs in a bucket.
I didn’t have those words to conceptualize it as a kid but I saw it in the way we’ve been pit against each other since the beginning. It’s an unsustainable model. I’m not surprised the state of the world, especially the economy today.
What I don’t get is if everyone is so smart then why am I the only one that seems to be seeing it. Operative word being “seems”. I know a lot of other people see it too. As evidenced by whole posts like this.
But as a collective. We’re supposed to be the most educated and most open minded generations ever (in terms of breadth of knowledge, not political leaning). Yet we seem to be regressing to worse off states of being than ever. What the hell is even that about?
No, I don’t buy into blaming the “boomers”. They voted for what they wanted collectively. Collectively. Everyone accuses them of being selfish. If anything our generations are just as selfish. I personally think we’re more.
I don’t buy into blaming the top 0.01% either. They are a product of our collective obsession with money and materialism. I do blame much of the top two-digit percentages. I really don’t care if you’re a multi-milionaire or soon to be worlds first trillionaire. You’re all running the same race. Just with different scores. A butterfly flapping its wings could have just as well re-arranged those musical chairs to put anyone at the top.
The younger generations have the voting power now. But there’s always excuses designed to dodge the truth. Whatever we’re upset with about the world today is our own responsibility now. The truth is it sucks because too many of us are making it suck.
it really does start young…it dawned on me recently that this was the whole point to musical chairs, and a number of other childhood “games” pushed onto us at school in bumfuck nowhere. there are so many of these shitass towns in the middle of nowhere, whose whole existence is basically just the local real estate robber barons trying to get one of their kids to “make it” so they can funnel a bunch of $ back into their fief.
and the backbone of all of it is exploiting a deliberately under-educated workforce…american capitalism is fucking disgusting.
i think the thing that pisses me off most is how long it took me to get around to the fact that everybody knows this, and just…either accepts their place or doesn’t care because the system benefits them.
i’m autistic…until this realization clicked for me i was kind of running around in dismay wondering why noone seemed to care everything was collapsing…but this too is just another part of the plan, it’s called “boom and bust investing/disaster capitalism”
Maybe ask some of your coworkers for help demonetizing, brainstorm hobbies with no payoff or audience to grift, put on a reflective HV vest or hat to screw up advertising slop commentary videos, play licensed popular music, swear and refer to drugs and ask people on camera how much they make, leave copies of Bertrand Russell’s In Praise of Idleness in the break room.
Depends on who you follow, specially on YouTube. There are lots of small channels that just make videos about how they feel and how to improve yourself, for example.
I subscribe to all of those small channels with an interest that i share. Then youtube feels like when it started. Just ordinary people talking and not acting in front of camera.
I mostly watch YouTube for the guitar videos. The best guitar teachers on the planet are on YT with tons of free guitar lessons and other interesting content (gear reviews, repair videos, guitar building, etc.). A lot of them are selling some special course, but they’re all offering plenty of free content, and I’ve never felt the need to pay for anything.
I don’t see why you should put your face in his video if he isn’t sharing the money. It sounds like he wants free labor to me.
i would normally tell him to fuck off but the chief leeches were there and wanted me to. whats worse is he has a somewhat large amount of followers and the chief leeches like him being there because of exposure.
Jesus what kind of hellscape of a job do you have where you’re being forced into viral marketing for something that is unrelated to your company?!
i work in a software security department at a large corporation. I HATE IT HERE.
Why would software security need (or even want) “exposure?”
the corporation has a large financial wing, why they think im a good target to include in some idiots tiktok video is your guess. i dont speak linkedin or tiktok
They probably see it as “woman in tech is rare, we show we have one”
Makes sense. Sadly.
Sounds like they aren’t paying you enough if your role includes being a performer.
They like this until he accidentally leaks something classified like the idiots that would upload their “Day in the life of” videos typing in pincodes and passwords and the wrong person sees it or goes back to see it an old video. Some horrible long term thinking for a software security team to allow
What the fuck? I was like dead certain that you were stuck with a bunch of high schoolers at a grocery store or something. That should never be happening anywhere remotely close to a cube farm.
Best strategy is to play dumb. “Hello, [fuckface’s manager], I have some concerns about the tiktok content [fuckface] is making for the company and some questions about my job responsibilities in relation to it. [Fuckface] pretty regularly interrupts my work to request me to act in these videos and it is getting in the way of my usual duties. If my participation is required, could you please let me know in writing? I’ll also need to discuss with my manager about how this should be prioritized and scheduled alongside my other job duties.”
Force their awareness in a way that doesn’t immediately look like an assassination. The more you can get in writing the more rope this guy makes to hang himself with. If somehow they claim it’s actually work related, keep pushing the edges of “I just want to be sure” until his channel is company property or he shoots himself in the foot.
Alternatively, get paid to intentionally do bad acting. “Oh, I’ve never been good on camera, sorry!”
“You know what my side hustle ad needs? A GIRL”
“Hey, I think a girl works for me. Let’s just use her.”
“Great thanks bro!”
Shit like this makes me want to become a terrorist. I wont, but I’m starting to get why other people do.
At a random time, when nothing is happening, hand him a “paid talent release form”.
If you look up “talent release form” it’s what allows a creator to use materials with another person. As it stands now, he asked you to participate but did not have you sign a release (with no fee), so you own partial rights to income from that video.
Say to him: “Since you are a pretty big creator I assume you’re familiar with releases. I grabbed a standard one to give you rights to my previously included videos, and here’s another for any future videos including me for a 50% share. I’ll sign them after you approve and sign unless you have a standard set you would like to use”
This makes it a business transaction, vs a “leave me alone”. He won’t want to figure out how to pay you, so he’ll probably stop.
It does suck. Watching all my highschool friends slowly lose the light in their eyes as the economy tightened its grip, becoming all more desperate just for basic necessities. The only way any of us can fix this is by making sure no one is run ragged by the fear of this fake ass scarcity.
The only way any of us can fix this is by making sure no one is run ragged by the fear of this fake ass scarcity.
By getting rid of capitalism, right? Right?
May we cast off these chains as comrades :)
Yes! :)
Hear me out, what if we use capitalism to fight capitalism. I’m sure it’ll work this time guys.
Most certainly! :)
At least you have empathy. My family deride me for struggling with affording housing my whole adult life. At least I dont have to see them more then a couple times a year. Love those douchebags.
It’s not you, I can tell you that. I won’t lie I feel that empathy because I was simply exposed to the horrors of capitalism before they were, my father losing his job, my family losing their house and having to work in a factory as a child. I can’t blame them for the conditions we’re all in.
I do indeed hate living under capitalism
do it in exchange of a share of the profit. nothing turns people off like sharing.
When someone asks for something, always tune your radio to station WIIFM. (What’s in it for me?)
The job market sucks and it’s only getting worse. A full-time job doesn’t provide the same standard of living it did for previous generations. I don’t like how there’s so much pressure to have a side hustle that makes money versus just having a hobby you enjoy, but for some people that’s their only option. But I don’t hate them, I hate the system.
That being said, it wasn’t cool for him to include you in his video. You have every right to push back and avoid this in the future.
I absolutely hate it. I just want to BE but that is impossible because we’ve turned modern life into an insufferable game.
I want to work a reasonable amount, and have enough time and money to create for my own pleasure if I so choose. I don’t even mind content creation in theory, I see it no different from writing or doing art. It’s the constant pursuit of more, more, more, both status and money, that gets to me. I want freedom, security, and comfort.
Yeah I mean if that’s what people enjoy I’m not going to yuck anyone’s yum (to a point), as long as they are not pestering people around them. Unfortunately that’s what gets clicks a lot of times, so you have these people creating these situations, harassing people at home and in foreign countries, creating all this fake drama between themselves. Yes I just wish more people would be happy with what they have and appreciate the things and people around them more (myself included.) All the flaunting and celeb worship is gross. Also the whole grind mindset, that’s great if you enjoy it but I certainly don’t have that energy and when people belittle other people for being lazy or whatever, it’s not even like that, I work very hard when I need to.
I want freedom, security, and comfort.
Unfortunately, you can only have one of these at a time
You can have all three under communism.
if it’s any consolation, this bubble with burst soon and most of these types will be too distressed working an actual job to bother chasing the rat-race
Just tell him no, tell him you don’t want to be on his social media.
Exactly this. And if they ask “oh but why not”. You just answer “I just dont want to be on your social media”. You never have to validate your reasoning for saying no.
If they push the why, then ask them if they’re genuinely interested in the answer before giving one. Force them to be a part of the conversation, because why people ask “aww why not”, its not because they’re interested in the answer, its because they wanta yes. Just say no.
I do a lot of things for fun that I could theoretically make money from. I model and 3d print stuff, I woodwork, I make electronic projects, I’m a musician, and a software engineer.
Sometimes I’ll get people saying stuff like “you could sell XYZ”. I tried it. I had an Etsy store where I sold my 3d prints. It was successful. Too successful. I was working my day job and then spending most of my free time printing and sanding and painting and talking with customers and dealing with shipping.
Initially I thought how great to be able to spend all my free time doing something I enjoy. In the end i thought how dreadful it is to spend basically all of my time working.
It fucking sucked. I’m glad to have had that experience, but now I know It’s actually super important to have hobbies that are just hobbies.
You didn’t just raise your prices till you weren’t that busy?
Several times, but there was a limit to how much I felt comfortable charging someone for 3d printed plastic
That or until you no longer need to work your other job and can ideally reduce total number of hours worked. May not work out, but at least you can balance it out somewhere like that.
As someone looking to make their own first electronic project, tips and tricks you wish you knew beforehand? Thinking of building my own music player, since the ones on the market are either overpriced or just a toy
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A half-decent soldering iron is way better than a super cheap soldering iron.
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Plan the build as much as you can, and then order all the parts at once. This way you’re not tied up waiting for parts to ship which kills momentum.
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Wires take up more space in an enclosure than you think.
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If you can order 3 of something for not much more money than 1. Do it. It’ll allow you to build up stock of things you use. That way when you get an idea, you’ll have parts on hand.
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Allow yourself to fail. Some ideas sound good but aren’t. It’s ok to abandon a project.
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Lean on the community. If you have an idea for a project, someone’s probably done it before. Look it up, see how they did it, learn from their mistakes. You can stand on the shoulders of giants and you absolutely should.
Not to discourage you but that is a super ambitious first project. If you want a good audio player but don’t want to spend a ton, I have the fiio snowsky echo. It’s super affordable, but surprisingly powerful. It drives my 250 ohm headphones without issue. No way you’re DIY’ing anything that good for its price. However if you want to DIY a music player just because you want to, absolutely go for it!
Thanks so much! Really helpful :)
I looked at all the dap’s that are out now and none do it how I envision it. I don’t mind spending more than a luxury dap for it if I can say I made it myself haha
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The problem isn’t TikTok or YouTube—it’s some guy at work who felt entitled to use you for his side hustle. If someone treats you like a prop instead of a person, you don’t owe them compliance, and you don’t owe bystanders an explanation either.
Yep. Nothing forces anyone to do anything, people do this crap willingly, and then blame everyone else for their poor behaviors.
It’s called be a shitty human being.
Well TikTok is also extra reprehensible since it’s been taken over by CIA/Oracle.
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